Nothing happens without a reason. When you find this, my friend, it is because you will be ready to hear it.
Yesterday we spoke and you had a problem. One that was stealing your joy. One that was preventing you from moving forward.
The day before it was a different problem. Same effect. You were worried and you could only focus on the problem.
And the day before, and the day before that. Each day was the same. Bringing another problem. Often they were related. Each day there was no joy in your voice. I could hear you pretending. I could hear you trying to say the right words. Upbeat, positive words but underlying, always in the background was that edge, that desperation, that hopelessness. That acknowledgment that today was going to bring another problem.
You weren’t ready to hear me tell you “embrace your problems”. Seek for the lessons you will learn from each problem. Your excuse, right now, would have been to dismiss that advice as I don’t understand what you are going through. And you may be right. I don’t understand your problems. They are not mine but there is a commonality in all problems. They help you grow. They help you learn, move forward. They challenge you. They test your faith and your belief in yourself. You, my dear friend, will survive this. A year from now you will only vaguely remember your worry. The feelings will be history. And you will be one year older.
I didn’t tell you these things because I know you are still reeling from the lesson I shared with you last week. “You are responsible for every situation and circumstance you are in.” You argued and provided example after example of where you were not responsible.
“Really? That’s strange because you could have done XYZ and prevented that, couldn’t you?” You were silent. “And in this scenario you could have got a second opinion and then taken the responsibility of making a choice between the advice offered. Right?” I think you were choking at this point as I heard some strange noises.
My intent and we will talk about this again, was simply to help you realize your victim mentality was holding you back. You cannot become the leader you want to be if you don’t hold yourself responsible for all and everything you do, say and think. You are in the situation you are in now because of the choices you made before. It’s as simple as that. When I hear you say “I made the decision, this is where I am, so what do I do now?” My heart will sing as I will then know you are moving forward. You are taking control of you. You are taking responsibility. You are moving towards leadership. You are destined to achieve great things. Now it will happen.
When you read this I will know it was time for you to do so. Nothing happens without a reason.
Until then, we will continue with other training: skills you need to grow your business, lead generation techniques, other areas of personal development. Until then, I will as always be here for you because I believe, I believe in you !
To your success,
Joyce Penner
Joyce, was it me you were talking to? Naw, couldn’t have been. Maybe, because I see myself in parts of what you said, not all, but much. Perhaps it is someone else you refer to? Or a whole bunch of someone elses?
Can you really hear what’s behind my happy-go-lucky, everything is ‘fine” demeanor? Or have you peaked inside, do you really know? I thought I did a good job hiding it all, holding it all together, hoping finally for the responsibility to take hold.
Not fooling you, hmmm, not fooling anyone I guess, not even myself. I’m human, you know, I pursue pleasure, avoid pain.
Yup, way too transparent for you. Time to step up to the plate again, “batter-up”! Time to take yet another swing at it.
Thanks for seeing through all of us, lady!
RICK